This past Spring Break I was reminded (time and time again) just how much weight I’ve gained.
Comments were made and tears were shed (not really).
“Tian, you got a little bit big.”
“Tian, did you ever go to the gym?”
“Tian, you should give the cafeteria a rest.”
Now, when you try to explain to your family what stress eating is or how hard it is to resist the buffet-style dining halls, they counter-back with:
“I know, I’m just saying this out of love.”
Well, here’s what I say to that… “I love you, too.”
It’s true that it can be of not help to your self-confidence (none, whatsoever) when you are being constantly reminded of how “big” you’ve gotten, BUT there’s a way to escape this battle field with few battle scars.
- Say “I love you”: Yes, it’s true that family can be the #1 cause of our headaches (next to finals week), but you can’t choose them. Regardless, of their blunt, rude, and downright hurtful comments, they’re still family.
- Stop “Sipping Tea”: Don’t restrain from telling your family how much their comments do hurt you. Sure, they might counter back and say it’s because they care, but let them know that this doesn’t change the fact that you felt hurt.
- Listen to your Body: Now magazine covers may communicate to you that a healthy body image, is one that comes without stretch marks, sagging belly, or a chubby face. But, the reality is, a healthy body is one where you take care of the bodily systems, which work 24/7 to keep you alive and well.
With that being said, let’s all start taking interest in our physical health and well-being by checking our cholesterol, making sure our blood pressure is right, giving Mary Walker Health Center a visit, and inviting your family and friends to engage in a healthy lifestyle, as well (because you love them, too!).